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     Ehoupt Advanced Member Username: Ehoupt Post Number: 185 Registered: 02-2003 |
Please tell me if I am over reacting. I go to a local business women's luncheon, it meets once a month. A lady there I have known for 4 years (I even worked for her for one of those years) and I considered her a friend owns a building downtown, makes an announcement that she is adding a new tenant to her building - get this - it is GIFT BASKET Business. We are also in the same networking group (she sponsered me). I feel so betrayed, if anything I wish she would have warned me before she made the announcement. I don't think I could have taken a retail space but my feeling is that because of our long standing friendship she would have come to me first and at least given me the courtesy of first refusal. I know I will get over this but I don't I can look at this person the same ever again. Eileen Houpt-Gift Baskets and Candy Wrappers for all Occasions www.getbasketsandmore.com | ||
| Sjbrown01 Intermediate Member Username: Sjbrown01 Post Number: 88 Registered: 04-2004 |
It doesn't sound like she's a friend in the true sense of the word. It's sounds like she is merely an associate. At least now you know where you stand. Sharon Gift Basket Supplies www.fcgbsupplies.com | ||
| Tere Senior Member Username: Tere Post Number: 879 Registered: 02-2003 |
My question: how much gift basket business did she send your way? And will you be losing that business to her new tenant? That would be the thing that would be upsetting to me. I agree it would have been nice if she mentioned the situation to you prior to a public announcement. Sounds to me like she was trying to avoid a conflict and took the easy way out. People do that. Or...she likes you so much she didn't want to hammer on you to rent her space. Should you feel betrayed??? I'd consider myself lucky that she didn't grind on me to rent the space. Is that an expense and responsibility you want in this economy? I do understand how you feel though. Tere Pia's of Pleasant Valley | ||
| Maryt Member Username: Maryt Post Number: 29 Registered: 07-2003 |
I am curious like Tere. Does your group and this woman do a lot of business with you? Is this woman promoting the new business or just bragging to the group that she has another renter in her building? I'm sure there are many different types of businesses in your group and if she would have said she rented to a realtor, an accountant or attorney and there was 1 in your group they might be feeling the same way you do. My dad use to say "when if comes to business or money, there are NO such things as friends" And it hurts when someone we think is a friend does not consider our feelings. Hope this doesn’t mess any with your business orders. Your just have to check this new business out and make sure you are 1 step ahead of them in your marketing plan. Good luck, Maryt | ||
| Littlepixie Junior Member Username: Littlepixie Post Number: 16 Registered: 04-2008 |
I would definitely be upset as well. It's just courtesy to tell you about something like this, even if she wasn't a friend! www.LittlePixieGifts.com.au Baby gifts, gift baskets and Christmas hampers - Australia-wide | ||
| Ehoupt Advanced Member Username: Ehoupt Post Number: 186 Registered: 02-2003 |
Thank you all for your encouraging words. So far as the business aspect, we both belong to a networking group so I did get some orders from her. The rest of the group however I have some regular customers that I still do very well without her business. That was never the issue. She just announced that she was adding a new business to her building. It was just the way it was done. It took me by surprise and I just reacted. I also do Pampered Chef on a limited basis and my director said she had heard about it because she lives a block away from the shop. She told me she thought everyone knew about it. So maybe she thought I knew about it too. Tere, there may be some truth to what you say about asking for rent but I just feel it should have been handled differently, but as my husband always says, "It is what it is" But I am feeling better about it, I am not going to let it get to me. "I Will Survive" Eileen Houpt-Gift Baskets and Candy Wrappers for all Occasions www.getbasketsandmore.com |
